White women's opinion of black women and a brother's response.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by
a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. She got
a response!!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black
male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a
lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man
decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were
slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too
mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying
too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly
approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me
the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with
their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're
out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why
we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles
Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell
Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney
Poitier, Kofi Annan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy,
Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes ... I could go on and
on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this
so hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want
us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you t
o treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
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RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White
Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I
graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta,
Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I
have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased
a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful
black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I j ust
want to set the record straight of why black men date white women.
Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated
white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls
in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict
about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to.
Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned
to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because
they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of
insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become
intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that
our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us,
drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many
black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I
have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on
how easy i t is to control and walk over their white women. I just
want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to
know that not all successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan,
Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface"
Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black
women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and
out of the spot
light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women.
Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop
thinking that because you are white that you are some type of
goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and
Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you
were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each
other over the head with clubs.
Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your
food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your
children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising
your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to
endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten,
killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes
against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this,
Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength,
elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone
except my black Queen.
It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to
them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes,
colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I
find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving
and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome
great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe
in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest
potential while enduring gr eat pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy
and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why
do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If
you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with
your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and
breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look
fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a
result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can
walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately,
I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife
and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and
understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am
looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit
the bill. No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
